Don’t cross an ocean for someone who won’t cross a puddle for you. You give and you get. If you’re putting yourself in a position doing generous things for someone whether it’s a friend or colleague at work and not getting the dedication in return, then fuck them. They don’t deserve the favors or generosity your giving them so do not replicate. Your wasting your time and they don’t belong in your life. I’ve seen many situations in which I myself have given my ALL for someone and they never return the favor. They are using you and you need to have the awareness that this is happening. When you find that person who will cross an ocean for you then you have a “true friend”. A friendship, relationship or marriage works both fucking ways. You give it your all, they give it right back to you. Those are the people you can count on and never forget that.